Thursday, December 15, 2011
Flavors Of Love
You can know love when you love, says OSHO
The first thing is that love can be known only by loving. It is not something that can be made comprehensible by intellectual discussion about it. Love is not a theory. If you try to make a theory out of it, it remains incomprehensible. That is the first Baul standpoint: there are things which you can know only by doing them, by being them.
If you don’t know swimming you don’t know what it is, and there is no way to know about it. You may go and hear a thousand and one swimmers talking about it, but still you will never know it. It is incomprehensible in every other way; you will have to learn swimming. You will have to go down to the river; you will have to take the risk. Swimming is known only by swimming; love is known only by loving; prayer is known only by praying. There is no other way.
There are things which can be known without moving into them — those are the futile things, those are intellectual things: philosophies, dogmas, creeds. But all that is real has to be lived, and all that is existential has to be penetrated, and the risk has to be taken.
Courageous And Daring
One has to be courageous; one has to be daring because when you love somebody you start losing yourself. To love somebody is to lose the ego; to love somebody is to be lost; to love somebody is to give power to somebody over you; to love somebody is to be possessed.
To love somebody means surrendering, because to the Baul, love is the only knowledge there is. You can read the Vedas, the Bible or any other dogma or scripture: there is no need to submit, there is no need to surrender. The Baul criterion is this: when something demands surrender, only then is there a possibility of real knowledge. The existential things can be known only through existential ways. Love can be known only by loving.
Movies, pornographic literature, novels and poetry, others’ love letters — all these can at best give you a glimpse of love. But to know love, you have to love. In fact, the more you know about love, the less will be the possibility to know love. You will be lost in your knowledge. You will start thinking that you know.
Learn To Move In The Dark
Love can be known only by loving. It means you have to move into love without knowing anything about it. That’s why it needs courage. You have to move in the dark, with no map, nobody to guide, not even a torch. You have to move in the dark not knowing where you are moving, not knowing whether you are on the right track or not, not knowing whether you will find the path or you will fall in a ditch and be lost forever.
Love has many flavors...dimensions, many nuances. Love is not one single thing. It is tremendously rich. It has many aspects to it; it is multi-faceted. It is like a diamond: it has many facets and every facet gives it richness.
Only a connoisseur — the one who has loved in many ways, lived courageously, dangerously, one who knows all the flavors of love, would have true knowledge of it…
If you watch, you will find many nuances of love. The single word ‘love’ has many words hidden in it. And one has to know all about love by moving in all the dimensions. If you have not known any facet of love, your understanding about love will lack that much. One has to know all the aspects and all the subtle differences. That’s what the Bauls mean when they say, “Only a connoisseur of the flavors of love can/ Comprehend the language of a lover’s heart,/ Others have no clue.”
A Special Language
Yes, it is a language. A single word will not do; it is a complete language. And once you know, you will be simply surprised. You can touch somebody’s hand like a friend, and the touch has a different flavor. And you can touch somebody’s hand like a lover, and the touch has a different flavor.
A connoisseur, with closed eyes, can just feel your hand and see... and understand the language.
The Beloved, Courtesy Osho International Foundation